The point isn’t to date someone who likes all the exact same things as you but to date somebody who isn’t a complete fuck and won’t mock you or your interests just because you don’t share them
so hey who else was taught as a kid that “”””wanting attention”””” in any way was wrong and shameful and has grown up unable ask for help or support even in great distress/suffering
Parent: why do you never come to me for help
(two days later)
Me: I need help with something
Parent: CAN’T YOU SEE I’M BUSY WHY CAN’T YOU DO ANYTHING BY YOURSELF GOD YOU’RE SO-
Me: never mind
And don’t forget the You Can Tell Me Anything (Except Things I Don’t Want to Hear)™.
oh look another list of normalized parenting things that are recognized as textbook emotional abuse behaviors if the victim is an adult
