I’d like to point out that actual studies have linked trans suicides to constant misgendering as a cause (one of, I should add), whereas affirmation of gender is known to do the opposite. So intentionally misgendering trans people is pretty much legit trying to kill them.
In other news, water is wet.
Where the study/source?
I’m uber busy at work and I don’t have the time to pull up the specific spot it’s discussed. But, look up the work of Dr. Ry Testa. He’s a trans man tackling these issues.
Someone who knows how to navigate resources and has the spoons and time try and find the paper, save trans momma the trouble.
Sounds super legit though. Being misgendered almost always causes some dissociation and social withdrawal form me since it belittles my identity. I don’t get suicidal thoughts but I could sure as hell see how someone who does would be affected by that.
Misgendering a trans person is a violent act. It’s an emotional abuse that cuts deep into who we feel we are at our core. We have enough to deal with internally, adding external voices to that can destroy us.
@TERFs who insist misgendering is just ‘hurt feelings’
chinese water torture is where they drip drops of water on someone over a long period of time. it can drive anyone to madness and even cause them to take their own life. But it’s just water, right? It’s a good analogy for misgendering someone in that while you purposefully misgender someone, it’s like looking at a single drop of water and saying “I don’t see how this could possibly be harmfull” and blatantly ignoring all the other drops that came before it. This shit adds up.
What other people do always seem better than us, but you may not know what THEY think about their own work..
Therefore the purpose of community is not to think less of yourself because of what others do, It’s to
realize you share the same passion with so many people.
You are NOT ALONE.. We UNDERSTAND!
//there’s also many other variations of responses to this! check it out! <3
I’m so happy and honored about how this sad post I made became a motivational and beautiful art chain :‘3
