I think my favorite panic-fueled response to a petitioner was when someone came up to me in Union Square and said “Hi, would you care to sign our petition for LGBT rights?” and I just blurted out “I’m already gay” and the person, taken aback, said “Well, that’s… nice.” and I said “It really is. Goodbye.” and just walked into the closest store to escape.
one time I was on my way to a final and this clipboard person was aggressively trying to stand in my way and saying “excuse me sir, can you take just one minute?” and I was like “I’m sorry I’m on my way to a final” and they said “just takes a minute to save a mountain” and I panicked because clearly the truth of why I had to go wasn’t working so I just said the first thing that came to mind which was “Sorry I hate mountains”
This is maybe my favorite response to this post, holy shit.
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Ruby and Sapphire: A Healthy Neurodivergent Relationship
We all know Ruby is an emotional gem that can get lost in tunnel vision, anger, and self-deprecation. People love to flanderize the pair, talking as if Ruby has no self-moderation and is utterly reliant on a calm Sapphire. Few people seem notice Ruby’s self-care or support for Sapphire. Almost nobody seems to talk about/understand that Sapphire is also neurodivergent.
Sapphire has Anxiety.
Before Ruby, her coping mechanism for futurevision/anxiety was an unhealthy detachment, to the point that she was ambivalent to her own wellbeing.
Ruby changed all that. Sapphire is no longer detached. She is invested in others and in *herself.* But she still has to manage her future vision, her anxiety. It is *always* there. She usually manages well on her own using logic, but not always.
Sapphire and Ruby do face a lot of external problems and when they tackle them with a unified front it isn’t so scary. Together they have the power to direct their own path through the present and future. Sapphire can then usually independently remind herself that she doesn’t have to worry so much.
When Ruby goes into a tunnel-vision rage over one problem, Sapphire feels like Ruby is beyond reach, beyond help, and unable to join her to tackle/change those future visions as a united front. It makes her worriesome projections seem bigger. She begins to unhealthily bottle because she doesn’t want to bother an already hurting Ruby, and she makes the self-destructive choice to be quietly overwhelmed without communicating or seeking help. And so the butterflies, the projections, the fears multiply and swarm her.
Ruby hits a point where she realizes she’s too angry about something small, isolating Sapphire. A pang of self loathing strikes her, but she independently addresses it, forgives herself, takes a deep breath, and takes proactive action to make things right. That is amazing self-management and self-care.
Sapphire, with all of those fears swirling around her, responds immediately and positively to Ruby prompting her to keep things in perspective. She gets a gentle, nonjudgmental nudge and Sapphire herself took action by independently choosing to turn away from her fears and focusing on reflecting Ruby’s positive vibes. Ruby didn’t have to drag her. That is a choice that takes great individual strength.
Their relationship is absolutely healthy, but NOT because they are neurotypical. It is a healthy relationship because they make healthy choices both independently and together. They are responsible for themselves and they communicate.
Both of them have different neurodivergent tendencies to grapple with. Both of them have to remember to understand their feelings but not be dominated by them. Both of them have to independently take a deep breath, practice self-love, and *then* meet to communicate and give equal support. Both of them are stronger if they take a moment to think of just Flexibility Love and Trust.
And that’s what makes them good role models for everybody, neurodivergent or otherwise!
Just months after the discovery that Facebook’s “trending” news module was curated and tweaked by human beings, the company has eliminated its editors and left the algorithm to do its job. The results, so far, are a disaster.
Over the weekend, the fully automated Facebook trending module pushed out a false story about Fox News host Megyn Kelly, a controversial piece about a comedian’s four-letter word attack on rightwing pundit Ann Coulter, and links to an article about a video of a man masturbating with a McDonald’s chicken sandwich.
The dismissal of the trending module team appears to have been a long-term plan at Facebook. A source told the Guardian the trending module was meant to have “learned” from the human editors’ curation decisions and was always meant to eventually reach full automation.
I want sensationalist headlines painting baby boomers as these confusing beings like they do to millennials.
“Why are baby boomers buying so many diamonds?”
“More than one house? The baby boomer obsession.”
“Baby Boomers: why do they find pleasure from swimming in their money?”
“‘When I was a kid I chased fireflies down by the creek!’ - why the beginning of this famous diatribe is irrelevant, ignorant and as worthless as baby boomer values.”
“Why are boomers terrified of kids on smartphones? A closer look into the older generation’s irrational fear of embracing new technology, even though they lived through half a century of rapid innovation.”
Jesus fuck okay so I’m a waitress at this restaurant that’s open really late and it’s nearly 1am and this family comes in and I’m so tired that I handed their BLIND SON a menu and he’s like “ah… thank you… I’ll just… read this” in a serious voice and I fucking snorted
GOD DAMN IT I PUT THEIR FUCKING FOOD DOWN AND NO ONE WAS TALKING SO THIS LIL SHIT FUCKING EXCLAIMS “WELL IT LOOKS DELICIOUS” I LOVE THIS FUCKING KID
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Arin Can't Find Dan in a Crowd
Arin:
desperate times call for desperate measures.
Arin:
*cups hands over mouth* I AM ARIN HANSON AND I SMOKE WEED
