kylo ren:
has been manipulated from a young age and essentially brainwashed, is extremely conflicted over the choices he makes, feels isolated and alone, is unable to control his emotions, pounds on his own wounds to intensify his pain and drive him further toward the dark side, doubts the actions of the first order, and is tempted by the light instead of the dark, SOMETHING WE HAVE NEVER SEEN IN A STAR WARS MOVIE BEFORE
I just read this super sad post about this girl who’s asexual and married and everyone is basically telling her that she doesn’t deserve her husband/she’s just a prude/she should just do it anyway.
So I want to tell you all right now that if people tell you this, or if they tell you you’ll never have a relationship, it is BULLSHIT.
My husband is asexual and I’m not. He’s sex repulsed, we don’t have sex, we never have.
And it doesn’t matter to me. You know what does? He does. His mental health and wellbeing matter to me. Because he is my best friend and he’s one of the smartest, kindest, funniest people I’ve ever met. And he’s had people tel him that he’s broken and it makes me SO ANGRY because they are WRONG.
Being different doesnt mean you’re broken.
If you don’t like sex/don’t want it/etc. Do not let anyone tell you that you’re inferior because you’re not.
Do not let anyone convice you that you’ll never have a relationship because they’re wrong(if you want one).
You are not broken, and it will be okay.
This made me feel really good. Remember this, for all my ace spectrum friends out there
I hope you don’t mind me reblogging your tags but these are my feelings EXACTLY
I’m always a little nervous that I’m not “good enough” for a “real relationship” because sex isn’t on the table. So yeah, these stories are reassuring
The amount of pressure from society to have sex is incredible. We’re told it’s linked to relationship health and if you’re not willing to do every damn thing you’re labeled a prude. It’s incredibly disheartening, especially considering how one’s libido can change over the years even if you’re not ace. Nice to see a supportive piece from a partner.
I had a friend on DeviantART. I had another friend on DeviantART. They wrote together for a long time. They fell in love. They were told long distance relationships never work out. That they were being silly. He was a popular Deviant and she received hate from girls feeling she ‘stole’ him.
He was open Asexual. She was non-asexual. She lived in America, he in England.
They kept writing together, their love still growing. They visited each other. She went to England to study besides him. When both completed their educations, they went to her home in America to get married and live together.
They had a long distance relationship for years. Was told it could never last. He was Asexual. Society tells us you need to match in sexual orientations and have lots of sex for a healthy relationship.
Neither of them cared. They are happily married on fourth year, still together despite what people told them. Carring for one another based on love, not how physical they are or how close they lived to one another. Those things never mattered to them, still doesn’t.
People are people and they have reasons to be together. You can’t tell them what reasons are right or wrong. You can’t tell them how their relationship should be. What should keep them together. As long they are true to themselves as well as their significant other in a MENTAL healthy manner… really, who cares?
