tbh the mainstream narrative of “deep down i always knew” re: sexuality is really shitty bc though it may be true for some (maybe a lot of??) people it ends up making people (me) feel like they’re faking it somehow, when really you can never be “wrong” about your sexuality….bc it’s yours….
idk i’ve just been thinking a lot about how compulsory heterosexuality shaped my life bc 5 yr old, 11 yr old, 17 yr old, me definitely did not know ~deep down~ that i was gay so when i started to question things at age 19 i felt too old to be thinking about this kind of thing bc i should have Known by then
not to mention the fact that coming out is something that requires a lot of self certainty and confidence that is not required of you if you’re straight. like you have to proclaim to the world that you are something and bc there’s a zero tolerance policy for Being Wrong then you better know for certain when you choose to come out
how is screaming “I wanna suck your dick” to a band member you just met any different from someone catcalling you on the street
Read this Read it again and again
Applies to actors, athletes, and other famous people as well.
Just because you’ve been fantasizing about them forever doesn’t mean that in their eyes, you’re anything more than a very creepy stranger sexually harassing them
One time a fan gave the guy who played Lex Luthor in Smallville a box of sex toys, on stage.
males weren’t oppressed by the patriarchy for over all of time, so they don’t get the same protections against sexual harassment that females do CIS WHITE TRASH!
It took me way too long to work out that this wasn’t about relating to unintentionally awkward introductions involving saying the wrong thing when joining your high school marching band.
