I wish to understand, which is why I am writing this post.
When I was in english glass, i was taught that he/she and him/her were pronouns for singular people, individual pronouns.
I was also taught that they/them were pronouns for many, plural pronouns.
This is why I get confused when people ask me to refer to them with they/them, my mindset tells me that they/them is plural, that’s what I was taught in ever english class I ever had.
So how many people you got in there? Is there a party going on over there? Can I come over and join the fun? Do I owe anybody in there money?
…this is my confusion. Can someone please explain why they/them is the chosen pronoun?
Thank you in advance.
First off, I would like to thank you for calmly explaining your confusion instead of screaming.
Second, here is my viewpoint as someone who uses They/Them pronouns. You are indeed right that it is for many people but as of recently, it can be used for a singular person.
Example; “ I’m bringing someone over. ” “ Who is she?/Who is he? ”
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“ I’m bringing someone over. ” “ who are they? ”
In a lesser note, it’s easier to say rather than say “ he or she ” and in a grammatical sense, it could work as these pronouns do not indicate gender. Traditionally, it is for many people, a group and so on. It could be used for a group of people who are all the same gender and it could also be used for a group of people are have different genders.
They/Them pronouns are, understandably, confusing to be used on a singular person as everyone ( Literally everyone ) who has gone to school and has taken the English subject are taught that these are only for more than one person but like I said above, as of recently, it can be used for one person too if you see the example above.
On the other hand, it is much more easier and recognizable than pronouns that are considered bizarre to many such as xe/xyr, e/eir, etc,etc pronouns so many users of They/Them pronouns MAY prefer this to prevent confusion or complications such as how to pronounce said pronouns or how to use them properly in sentences.
Hopefully this can clear things up.
I’ve already had some several conversations with some people explaining their opinion as to why we use they/them, and not the xe/xyr (e/eir I actually have not heard of), and it seems that it’s more of a metathesiophobic issue, an illogical fear of change.
Other theories is that those new terms just haven’t caught one yet, to which I say, well “badonkadonk” is in Merriam-Webster’s, was submitted in 2007, so that’s not the issue. Some people feel they are too “alien” or “made up”, to which I say… well, he and she were “made up” at some point, right?
This is an exciting time to be alive, for me AND my children, the old norms are falling away and hopefully making way for new and more tolerant ways of life. Ways of life that I can be proud to explain in depths to my kids, when they are older, and to my grandkids.
Yes it’s true.
It’ll take time as there are still rotten apples from the previous generation trying to control the current generation but in the future, I am positive that xe/xyr and other pronouns will actually be up and exposed as much as he and she.
Considering the current LGBT+ movements and debates going on in the current world, and I rarely use this word but uh, feminism and all that jazz happening, it can and will happen. The question is /when/.
They/them can be used to describe someone with an unspecified gender and by extention, non binary genders.
I’ll be honest, I kinda have mixed feelings with Hypnosis
I mean on one hand, I’m not into it for the most part and I usually just tend to stay away from it. On the other hand, isn’t this technically rape? I mean this kink usually involves one person forcing someone to do something against their will.
I know this is a bit sounds a bit hypocritical since I’m into unwilling vore and sometimes non-con (fictional, not the real non-con that we’re sadly very well aware of), but those two are never ambiguous about what they are. So I guess what I’m saying is that I’m turned off by not knowing the moral standpoint of this kink.
And I thought my turn-ons were weird
as for transformation, eh, I’m not into it. I know where the appeal is, but it’s not for me
In real life, people can only be hypnotized if they WANT to be hypnotized. meaning whatever comes out of it IS consensual because they would slap back to reality as soon as something they don’t want to happen tries to happen.
Lmao, you don’t even know the half of it. Reportedly, we have hell hounds.
Because honestly it’s a pretty freaky place. I mean, we are legitimate Night Vale/Gravity Falls level freaky. Here are just a few things about our town you all should know that gives it these qualities:
-It is currently the middle of summer and 40 degrees Fahrenheit and dropping
- There are frequent ghost sightings throughout the town
- A few poltergeist
- Our state office literally has a place to register to be a vampire
- Honestly no one even notices when freaky paranormal things happen
- If you go to the darkest parts of the town there are people who summon demons for you. Like drug dealers but with demons
- Last school year the field by the school caught fire and burned up the entire field unnaturally. What makes it unnatural? Well, according to documents by the police and fire department, and since I saw this the next day at school, the fire was already out by the time they had got there and the fire had actually stopped abruptly in a line. Almost like it hit a wall but there was nothing there.
- There is a haunted Bell tower where some guy fell to his death and his corpse got sealed in the walls.
- We have a house out here where if you open all the doors and one person stands at the front door and another at the back, and one of them shot the other it would just immediately hit the other person
- There’s a Ghost train that goes by my house every once in a while. The ghosts are dressed on 1920s fashion. They’re quite nice.
- The last time I saw a deer come through it ate a squirrel
- The coyotes can climb fences. Not like how a dog would climb a fence though. More human like.
- There’s a pizza parlor run by the mafia. And two of the sons just “left” permanently.
- Back when I was a baby, apparently the town had a curfew since there was a large dark “something” roaming around. I asked my mom a few years ago what happened to it. She said that it just disappeared one night.
- And finally, at night, when the stars come out, they always are brighter than other places. Even out in the country, they are not as bright.
So yeah.
Where is this magical place? May I live there???
Wyoming
but ok this is exactly like something cecil would report on in night vale tho
after-fur-and–feathers Imagine my surprise that it wasn’t your godless neck of the woods.
Lmao, you don’t even know the half of it. Reportedly, we have hell hounds.
I’m always a slut for sleepless nights after you’ve told me the latest horrifying paranormal shitshow that’s gone down where you live.
Wow. That’s amazing! And your hell hounds sound bad but not as violent as the ones out here. I mean ours regularly attack people, and a several have actually been killed. What usually happens is either someone ends up with bites on the leg, or if they die, they go missing for a few weeks, and then are found torn to shreds in some dark alley or under a bridge.
And instead of a library being haunted we have the Atlas Theatre. Often things will move, ghosts in old fashioned clothes will sit and watch the shows and then disappear into thin air at the end of the show. There is writing upstairs, red stuff all over the walls at times, and things regularly go flying at people up there.
Yeah. You get used to it. Just carry Holy water, silver, and incense with you and you should be fine!
Oh they write cliché get out and I’m gonna kill you and then there’s another one that writes in pen asking what shows will be performing and when. They like watching the shows. Most of the time though there isn’t writing do much as objects getting thrown. Like, a paint can went flying at my friend last year after she asked where the blue paint was. I bet the ghost was trying to be helpful but they got super close to her head.
Yeah they think teens have been up there but there are no windows and it’s locked pretty tight. I mean, it’s possible and likely, but the flying objects are a bit weird.
And I carry that stuff out of town too. It’s just safer if I use it and keep it in town as well. I mean, attacks happen 24/7 here. So we always have to be prepared.
Didn’t the Atlas used to do a haunted house? I think that’s where some of the writing comes from.
Well that’s what I thought too but when I tried researching the history nothing came up on that.
The word “butthurt” was just added to the Oxford English Dictionary. The amount of people that’s going to upset is going to completely solidify the fact that it should be there.
…..I am on the verge of being suspended from my one job…..
because….
a woman complained to both my manager and the store manager and the assistant store manager that I was being rude and ignoring her while I was on till and cashing her through because I wasn’t talking to her when she was talking to me……
I’m Deaf.
I have a sticker that I can put on my till and a pin that I put on my uniform that says DEAF so that people know. The packer who was packing up her groceries told her I was Deaf and her response to him was ‘She should learn to listen better if she is going to work in the service industry.’ My packer then tried to continue to explain to which the lady told him that it was still my responsibility to have a conversation with her if she wanted one and that instead of watching the screen to see if her groceries scanned through I should listen to the beeps that way I can talk to her.
3 times my packer explained to her that I physically am unable to hear and no matter what I won’t be able to pay attention to both what she is trying to tell me and to the computer to make sure all the groceries went through.
And still she complained.
And now because she complained to both the store managers and the front end manager they might have to put me on suspension for 3 days because of it.
What fucking bullshit audist society do we live in?????
Hell fucking no.
A lawsuit waiting to happen.
Sue that bitch. She was informed multiple times and there were signs that said you were deaf. if she chose to ignore them, it’s on them.
