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Gather round kids while I explain this manipulation tactic that men perpetually try to use and why it’s bullshit.
If someone is openly showing interest in you by making disparaging or disappointed comments about your age, they’re trying to put you on the defensive. This guy wants me to try to quell his discomfort, to bring up that I’m only a month shy of 20, etc. - he wants me to try to prove myself to him, that I’m mature and adult enough for a man like him.
His goal is to establish a power imbalance right off the bat. If we were to date, I would constantly be on the defensive, constantly striving to be an equal, constantly trying to prove my “adult” credentials. Anything he says or does or wants from this point on that I object to would just be seen as a strike against my age, proof that he was right and that I’m not mature enough for him. This is how SO MANY men pressure younger individuals (primarily women and girls) into situations and relationships they aren’t comfortable with. If he truly thought I was too young for him, he wouldn’t have messaged me. This is a very calculated move, and it’s fucking gross.
Adult relationships with age gaps are completely fine, but only if all parties view each other as equals. If someone is trying to set you up in a way that ensures that’s never a possibility, run far away.
READ THIS SERIOUSLY READ THIS ^^^^^^^^^^^^
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Reblogged for the commentary.
This is really important because I think that educating about power imbalances and how to spot that manipulation is a lot better than saying “young people don’t date older people”. I had people use this kind of tactic on me when I was 18/19 as well and it is really damaging.
*realizes some things* damn, son.
(via deep-sea-prince)
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reasons to love BOB’S BURGERS
- not racist!
- not sexist!
- not homophobic!
- no offensive and rude jokes about people that aren’t white!!
- cute and original concept!
- endearing characters!!! SERIOUSLY ALL OF THEM
- lovely songs!!
- it made my life 99% better !!!!!!!!!!
- i recommend it 10/10!!!!
It’s funny without being mean - it’s perfect
the family members truly love each other which is so important!!!
It’s the most accurate portrayal of a middle class family that’s slightly dysfunctional.
English is a difficult language.
It can be understood through tough thorough thought, though.you need to stop
Y'all’d’ve had to stop them first.
(via thatsthat24)
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mothernightrain asked: hey are ready for the new five night at freddy 4 it going to be cool when it come out on oct 31
Halloween is four months away lmao
Did someone say halloween!?
