I’m seeing some folk reblog the ‘biological sex’ post with not-so-cool commentary - just a reminder that both Pangur and Grim dislike TERFs & will use their tiny paw-beans to merrily block ‘em
Pangur says “blocking TERFs is free & easy!”
Grim says “blocking TERFs makes my fur softer!”
When you terf yourself out as a terf so you gotta terf the terfs terf terf
omg the transcult never stops being fucking embarassing
Wednesday says “shaping your online identity around harassing marginalized women is extremely fucking embarrassing, and blocking TERFs freshens my breath!”
a much-needed addition: Pangur, Grim and Wednesday also use their beans to block aphobes!
If my two kitties would sit still long enough for photos they would join this.
I read a tweet that Kristen Bell was getting harassed for her views on vaccines and my heart sunk. I thought another celebrity fell for the anti-vaccine propaganda. It’s the same feeling I get when I find out an actor I like is a Scientologist. Kristen has been a long time celebrity crush going back to Veronica Mars. I’ve always found her to be so delightful. So I was especially concerned.
So I head to google to see how bad it is. Thinking to myself “If she befriended Jenny McCarthy I am going to lose it.” And then this headline pops up.
OH THANK GOD.
This is why I check things. She was getting harassed because she was telling anti-vaxxers to heck off. I guess I assumed the worst due to being burned in the past. I’m glad I was mistaken.
When your dad tries to guilt trip you into visiting him: “well I guess I’ll just spend the weekend all by myself…”
You say “glad to know we’re on the same page.” Slowly, he will have to adapt to just outright telling you what he thinks instead of playing mind games.
When your friend tries to hint that they’re mad at you without saying anything: “Oh, I’m fine, clearly you don’t need to worry about me,”
You say: “I’m glad you’re doing well. Call me if you want to talk, though!” Soon enough, they will accept that they can’t be passive aggressive with you.
When your boyfriend says: “All your friends are great, I really love *insert male friend* especially.”
You say: “I’m so glad you like my friends! I should invite them back soon.” He needs to understand that if he has a problem with your friends, he needs to just voice his concerns instead of being sarcastic and accusatory.
As someone who has lived through several toxic relationships and has an abusive father, I think one of the most important manipulation tools a toxic person has is excessive subtext and hidden meanings in their conversation. It hides all of the actual fighting from the eyes of onlookers while still hurting you, which is scary and makes you feel like you’re making it all up. Don’t put up with this bs. Make them stop hiding.
Make. Them. Say. What. They. Mean.
This is exactly what I do. I don’t have time for any of that passive-aggressive nonsense.
I talked to a young man with white hair on a boat cabin in the middle of a stormy sea. He forgot everything about himself exept for the fact that his name rhymed with ‘Time’ so he started calling himself Time.
I offered him an orange in exchange for a meaningful chat. He took the slice and told me “Nothing’s set in stone, but they’re set in a dirt road. If you roll your wagon in the same path too much it’ll soon be the only path you can take without struggling.”
