Silver Tongue

Aug 20

haedonists:
lordhellebore:
ianrojo:
foleypdx:
aquarianoccultist:
Somebody finally put this into words
This is the most real and relatable thing… Wow.
Tumblr, this isn’t healthy. At best it leads to confusion about boundaries; at worst it leads to abuse.
“I like being by myself and am comfortable in my own company. If you want to spend time with me, spending time with you has to feel better than being by myself. I won’t spend time with you if it makes me feel worse than being by myself.”
What is unhealthy about this? How could it ‘lead to confusion about boundaries/ abuse’? I find it very healthy, and in fact, it’s setting excellent boundaries: “If being with you makes me feel worse than not being with you, then I choose feeling better and not being with you.”
Here’s a funny thing. This isn’t the first person I’ve seen reacting negatively to a post where someone points out that there’s nothing wrong with being alone / actively choosing to be alone / not chasing relationships just because ‘you gotta’ or ‘everyone else is having one.’ I can’t find the other post right now, but it was advising people to become more comfortable with doing things by themselves, when not in a relationship (going to the restaurant, to the theater, etc). And in comes some twit, with ‘hurr durr, an asocial serial-killer wrote this.’
[inert GIF of someone flipping the bird here]
I’ve noticed that a hell of a lot of people feel actively threatened by the existence of highly introverted people, who don’t have problems with being alone and who might actually prefer that state of being. Even when all we’re doing is existing and minding our own lives, with little to no fuss.
I don’t know how to put this more clearly than the fact that there’s absolutely nothing healthy about someone going against their own nature, just because ‘society says so-and-so.’ And this can range from getting involved in a relationship one isn’t actually interested in, just because people are pressuring one for being ‘lonely’, all the way to having unwanted children, just because ‘everyone else is doing it’, instead of any genuine desire to be a parent.
I feel like this is an extension of this odd, highly entitled take on relationships a good portion of tumblr seems to have where they expect their friends/family/partners to be on-call for them 24/7 and the very idea of those people being unable to do that (because like…they have lives of their own) is considered abusive.

The idea that the people in your life are not obligated to jump when you say jump and drop everything when you say so whenever you say so rustles the hell out of a lot of people on tumblr’s jimmies. There’s this weird possessiveness that people on here show towards the people in their lives and this expectation that those people should make them their main priority above their own needs and other obligations that’s wildly unhealthy. I can easily see people who are mad at being told “I have other things going on in my life and can’t always prioritize your needs/wants over everything else” being even madder at “I expect you to bring something positive to my life/this relationship that is more fulfilling than what I can get on my own and if you can’t then I’m happy to be alone”.

(via mbulteau)

geekscoutcookies:

te-amo-corazon:
the entire term has been this confusing and chaotic
The staff of The Onion are just growing cobwebs at this point

(via demilypyro)

telltaleclerk:

frontier001:
auntiope-3000:
telltaleclerk:
I JUST learned that this shirt cost them $10,000 to put into this movie… but they refused to compromise because they were like: he’s the hugest Golden Girls fan… this has to make the movie… so they paid $10,000 to use Bea Arthur’s likeness on this shirt… Ryan Reynolds, you’re doing Deadpool so right.
They traded all the guns in the final climactic showdown for Bea Arthur’s face. Worth it.
Reynolds paid it himself, out of pocket. It didn’t come from the budget. He talked with Bea’s sons and they agreed to it for a donation to Bea’s favorite charity. ☺️
I did not know that. That’s so much better than I could have imagined.

(via demilypyro)