I stood next to a dude and someone assumed I was dating him.
Me and my parents went to the OC fair and there was a display of gems and they give you a worksheet to try and match the gems with their name and I was filling it out at the table and some stranger came to stand next to me and the elderly women managing the display looked at me and said, “Maybe your boyfriend here can help you with some of the answers.”
Me and the guy looked at each other. I told her that I didn’t know him and that he was a stranger. The guy shrugged. The women continued, “Oh, then maybe you should introduce each other then! You never know what can happen!”
At the same time I said, “I’m gay,” the guy said, “I’m married.”
The lady looked really offended that we wanted nothing to do with each other lmao
you know, the weird thing about the ‘i didn’t care about feminism until i had a daughter’ crowd is that the vast majority of these men have wives.they formed close,intimate relationships with actual human woman over the course of several years and yet that wasn’t enough to make them give half a shit about women’s issues. but the very moment that wife, that living breathing human female with rights and needs that these men could have been caring about this whole time,pops out a baby that they feel is their possession, then women’s issues are important. very bizarre.
… I’m making tea.
It’s because many men see women they have sex with differently. I’ve met so many who were outright misogynists yet vowed they would beat up anyone who would dare throw a single bad glance in their mother’s direction.
A daughter seems like a full, ‘valid person’ because it is a bond that is totally not based on sex. It is scary how deeply ingrained- and often subconscious- is the belief that someone you can fuck makes them more fair game to disregard and more of an accessory.
Actually, it’s coral blue #3
