Shit Straight People Just Dont’t Get: Gay men are not attracted to men the same way straight women are, and lesbians are not attracted to women the same way straight men are.
I saw a popular post go around a long time ago that talked about the sexualization of women in comic books vs the lack of sexualization of men and they said how “straight women and gay men aren’t attracted to to big tough rough buff men, that’s a male fantasy.” And it kinda reminded me of how straight people think we experience attraction the same way as them, and say with how bi people are attracted to the same gender/genders too.
Like no offense but a lot of things mlm find attractive in men, straight women would find unattractive. A lot of things lesbians would find attractive in women, straight men would find unattractive. Also vice verse, which show in straight romances and anime where the sexualization of women is never meant for wlw in the audience.
It’s not that we’re “desperate gays” so we just have to go for feminine gay men, butch lesbians, bears, more body hair or muscle, fat, etc. Its just that being attracted to those certain things whether in appearance or mannerisms, is literally part of gay culture.
Like this whole idea that mlm experience attraction the same as straight women and wlw experience attraction the same way as straight men is just a way to compare mlm to women and wlw to men and to further split apart solidarity between us. Also for lazy straight writers to give us content that doesn’t match our needs or culture. I really wish straight people would stop this misconception.
This post includes trans mlm and trans wlw. It harms us even more so.
