here’s an idea: notice toxic trends in your behavior and, idk, change them
the fact that people are complaining on this post that they can’t change their behaviors that hurt others because they have x mental illness and We Can’t All Be Neurotypical Karen is absolutely fucking wild. do you realize your arguments have come full circle to being indistinguishable from the most crude, generic “mentally ill people are inherently dangerous and/or abusive” ableist rhetoric? you always have the agency to address the ways in which you are hurting others (or yourself). maybe not instantly. maybe not effortlessly. but it IS within your abilities and it is something you owe to your community and yourself
“hey if ur hurting ppl learn not to” “UHM BEING ABUSIVE IS HOW I COPE–I HAVE TO TREAT PPL LIKE DIRT (UNLESS IT’S ME)”
You can’t just shove your dick inside of somebody’s vagina.
FOREPLAY IS YOUR FRIEND!
And for some people, the more time you spend on foreplay, the better the sex session will be.
Hold up … why are y'all afraid of a little lube????
Lube is life???? Turn that coochie and booty into a slip and slide and you’ll orgasm in NO TIME ok??
Jot that down
Condoms are your friends.
And if you’re not fond of them, please make sure you are monogamous with your sexual partner (for infection control- meaning you will decrease the amount of STIs being spread). Get tested regularly especially if you are constantly having new sexual partners.
Just drink more water. Please.
And if you expect people to fucking shave for you. Expect them to have a little scarring or bumps because ingrown hairs are a bitch and there’s nothing many of us can do about it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Oh and your energy is everything.
If your energy is not compatible with the person you’re fucking with, the sex is not gonna be that great.
Omg please stop expecting people who have no to little experience with sex to be doing magic tricks with you.
It’s either you’re willing to teach or just don’t fuck with them.
I’m tired of hearing that “your dick/pussy is wack” BS.
Ok sorry that they don’t have sex with everyone they make eye contact with. Sheesh.
Regarding that last one. I’ve had one too many straight men listen to me say that most of my sexual experience is with women and still get disappointed that I find blowjobs difficult. Like, dude, this is not the kind of oral I’m used to, give me a minute before you start jabbing my gag reflex. Also that they just expect it and don’t even ask what I want.
This is why I’m not fucking with straight men anymore unless they are exceptional and prove it to me before we have sex. And even then, I’m still not going to give a blowjob until they’ve sufficiently demonstrated that they know how to give me pleasure.
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Porn ain’t real life. I say this especially to the women that are becoming sexually active. You will not be able to do a split on the dick the first time. You will not be able to deep throat dick without practice.
Be vocal about what you want. If it hurts say so, if you don’t like the constant jabbing that porn made popular let him know.
Pussy don’t taste like starburst and dreams.
I love this and think that everyone should read and appreciate the fact that this thread was even made. Bless bc all of this is so very relevant.
Y'all better take notes
step 1) foreplay step 2) more foreplay step 3) even more foreplay step 4) sex for a little bit step 5) uncomfortable? repeat steps 1-3 again
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It’s really not that hard to understand but then again, men are dumb
Re-reblogging to add from (painfully) personal experience:
It’s not your fault, if you have some form of it. It doesn’t mean you’re hopelessly broken. It doesn’t mean you suck at fucking. It just means you’re going to struggle with some stuff more than other people with vaginas, and so many people with vaginas have this problem and don’t address it properly because they don’t know they can. Same shit above applies, except more. Go slow and demand patience. Learn your own muscles. Learn what works for you. Use TONS of lube. Advocate for yourself. Possibly talk to a doctor if it’s real bad. You deserve to have sex that doesn’t hurt.
And y'know, there’s so much more to sex than penetration anyway.
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I will probably die before I understand why most men hate foreplay so much, I mean… It is life! If you both like or even love each other, shouldn’t you enjoy and appreciate the connection between you before you have penetration? Like wtf, sex isn’t only penetration itself, is the whole fucking process, and if you can’t keep your fucking dick out of a vg just cause caressing one’s body is too overwhelming and tedious, then bro, it’s time for you to leave.
Also…
Dear virgins or people who only had sex with one (shitty) partner: LASTING TEN MINUTES ISN’T NORMAL.
I REPEAT.
LASTING 10 MINUTES EVERY SINGLE TIME WITHOUT CARING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S PLEASURE ISN’T NORMAL.
“Oh, but it’s hard to hold it back” for fucks sake, there are shit ton of resources on the internet on how to last longer, so stop finding excuses just cause you only care about your shitty self.
Spreading this gospel
Anal takes practice and isn’t for everyone! Take it is tiny steps for a long time if you are even going to consider it. Start on your own and slowly graduate through digital and small toy insertion. Do NOT force anything that feels painful. Never jump right into it because a partner is guilting you into it. It’s a hugely personal choice that takes a lot of effort. Porn actors and actresses take hours of prep, usually starting the day before, to be able to do a single scene. It does NOT come easy. Take your time and good lube is your best friend!
Every young girl should be told all of this
Thank you for the person who brought up Vagininsmus! For whatever reasons that you have it…remind yourself daily that you aren’t less of a woman just because you’re struggling with that.
Luuuuuube will always be your friend! Always always. Don’t be scared to spend some coints on great lube and even on a great dildo. Extend that foreplay by pulling out the dildo and allowing your partner to use it on you. It allows your muscles to relax, you to get more comfortable with your partner and ends up being a fun time for both of you!
but main thing to remember is you are not less for it and if your partner makes you feel shitty for it, smack that asshole with dildo and bounce!
Porn sex is AWFUL sex.
For people who watch it, please remember that it’s for the viewer to get off to and not the participants.
The positions are for camera angles, not the performers.
If you don’t believe me, note how dry the vaginas usually are unless there’s lube.
