they all probably would have been separated from each other, mainly Newtwo being taken to Unova so they would have had to find each other again in the wild, Mewtwo and Newtwo having no memory of their parent, Newtwo especially
imagine opening the newspaper over your morning coffee and the first article is a piece by your wife about how much she fucking hates you
Oh god I just looked this up and it’s…worse than I was anticipating tbh like it’s literally just a bunch of aimless complaining about stuff her husband does that annoys her and also her smug disdain for the idea of someone not hating their spouse is killing me
I kept waiting for it to be satire but it just. Never was satire
lady I think this might have something to do with why you’re having problems
it’s like. her problems with him mostly seem like a petty list of random annoyances. that have no fucking business being an Article. an op-ed. this should be like. a text message. to your husband. an conversation……
instead of an op-ed for the new york times
like, his snoring is keeping her awake, why,,,,,, doesn’t she just SAY THAT,,,, instead of writing…an article in the new york times………like. just talk. just use your big person adult words.
maybe get a divorce, idk.
maybe even let me have him.
SHE’S WRITING A MEMOIR ABOUT HER MARRIAGE?
Is it just me, or is it weird how Straight People™ will talk about marriage like it is fundamentally, deeply different than all other relationships, some kind of numinous torture that can’t be stopped or adjusted or examined in a productive way?
Coexisting in the same space, in the same life, with a person, displaying all your flaws, is irritating and messy and hard! But I can’t imagine relating to how fraught and intense and distressing this woman’s relationship seems.
My most long-lasting people are also those with whom my relationship modulates and buffers its own highs and lows the most. Being flung into extremes of emotion is something I associate with my most toxic, unhealthy relationships, and it has a lot to do with the inherent instability and the sense of trying to constantly wrestle with the relationship, being cast from hope to dread about it, not being given clarity or being able to communicate with the other person.
With any healthy relationship I find there’s a very calm bedrock. You know that you can talk to the person, that they will listen to you, that you are both prepared to meet each other with understanding and grace. You might be annoyed with the person, but you can just say it without letting annoyance build forever.
I’m so pleased this article has found its way to other sane people because my partner and I read it the other day and were just. incensed. like, we can make jokes about this woman’s viewpoint all day long but the condescension with which she writes about her husband, her marriage, and everyone else’s marriages, is actually deeply upsetting.
let’s be clear: this article is a woman at her breaking point with her uncommunicative marriage, and I’m willing to bet her husband does play a role in that marriage not being communicative. but she refuses to acknowledge, sentence by sentence, that she is in any part responsible for that dysfunction. and she has the audacity to claim that everyone else must be suffering just like her.
[off-topic but also relevant: The other day I was feeling bad about my acne and my partner gave me a face mask and a foot rub to help me feel better. I think if I told this woman that her head might pop off.]
she is so deep in denial about the fixability of her situation that she claimed, in the New York Times, that she’s imprisoned in her marriage. Babe, if you hate your marriage that much, you’ll be pleased to learn about a thing I like to call divorce. this is a fixable problem. and that’s without A) having a sane conversation with the man you married (you married him! you chose this!) or B) seeking couples counseling. This is a fixable problem.
The article is about a woman who seems to think that a family vacation to the Great Barrier Reef will be relaxing and somehow resolve her marital issues. She doesn’t trust her husband to care for their two teenage daughters while SCUBA diving, so she stubbornly gets on the SCUBA boat despite being seasick. She doesn’t tell anyone how she’s feeling and gets angry that they don’t acknowledge it. When her daughters don’t want to do anything but laze around the rest of the day despite her apparent schedule and plans for how to spend the vacation, she’s pissed and shuts down. She tells no one about her burning headache so of course, no one is quiet or gentle. Sometimes she has a point; for instance, her husband should have been responsible for planning the part of the trip where they visit his relatives. But God forbid this woman talk to him about that literally at all. she’s burned out, and she hasn’t even tried telling him that with her words. The result is a toddler-like tantrum in the hotel room that puts everyone into awkward silence.
The tragedy is that she’s totally unwilling and unable to see her personal marital problems as anything except inevitable, because if they could be prevented, she failed to do that and her husband failed to do that and the both of them are at fault for their own miserable marriage. She would have to accept that she failed at every step to communicate the things that bother her, to ask for his help, and even acknowledge her own feelings. She would have to accept that her husband of seventeen years doesn’t know how to tell when she’s upset or cranky, and that’s on him for not trying but it’s on her, too, for expecting him to know through psychic powers. Amnesia will only breed resentment, Heather; if you pretend you aren’t bothered, this will never get better, and it can.
The tragedy of her misery is more than that, though. It’s that she’s also trying to convince not just herself, but every other person in an unhappy, uncommunicative marriage that this is just how it is, it cannot be fixed, YOU ARE TRAPPED HERE. And some people are going to believe her.
Oh honey…..
This just got worse the more I read it.
Hey I’m other news have I told y’all how much I FUCKING ADORE my husband?
jesus christ. this makes me appreciate the good communication i have in my relationships.
