so like okay,
I don’t know why I’ve been obsessively thinking about the concept of “gaydar”
but I have.
Actually no it’s because a straight family member used the term like“oh I have really great gaydar”
and it made me feel really gross
and it took me like a full hour to realize why.
When heterosexual people say that,
it feels like they’re bragging about their ability to clock us, you know?
like a straight person is telling me that they can spot us queers at 50 pacesand i’m immediately going to be uncomfortable with that,
whereas when other queer folks talk about being able to spot each other
it’s a tool for survival.
Like here’s the thing right?
being able to tell is important sometimes.
Here’s an example:
A couple summers ago I was in a very very small town in Nova Scotia, Canada
(like 6 buildings small)
and I met a woman in the library who was probably a little older than my actual mother.
She was there most days using the wifi
because she lived across the street in an apartment without internet.
We sat at the same table a few times and spoke briefly about life in passing
and after a few of these not-talking-about-gay-stuff convos I was pretty sure she was a part of the lgbtq community
and I slipped in a casual pronoun re: an ex
and she just looked at me,
stopped completely
and said “oh thank fuck, I thought so.”
and instantly started talking about her girlfriend,
it was like this huge wave of relief washed over both of us
because we were in a small rural town and both hovering in this really queer space and unable to talk about it.
Anyway she was really rad and took me to the closest big town to buy me a tim hortons coffee
because she found it reprehensible that I had been in canada for more than 3 weeks already and hadn’t ever had it.
Almost instantly it was like
“oh okay we have this thing in common that other people may not be cool with
but we can actually exist and not hide shit without the fear of violence or anger”
but when it’s a straight personthey’re pretty much just letting you know that they can spot the fact that you seem “abnormal” to them
like great
thanks for letting me know.
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We’re identifying brethren while they’re identifying outsiders. It’s that simple.
Seriously, married or not I reckon Charlie Weasley would be a riot at family gatherings. Just turning up, throwing Molly a casual “Wotcher Mum! Brought the kids, hope that okay!” And Molly turns round confused, sees what he’s talking about and - “Those are not ‘the kids’ Charlie, thOSE ARE TINY DRAGONS IN ONESIES!!!!!”
I’VE BEEN LAUGHING AT THIS FOR HOURS
so I started the idea that Hunk is soft compare to rock-lizard-alien but then I just lost the trace where I was going with this. Pidge is cute. the end.
#aRE THOSE ED’S DRAWINGS#DID THEY SERIOUSLY HANG UP ED’S DUMB DRAWINGS OF THE HOMUNCULI#LIKE SOME DOTING PARENTS HANGING THEIR TODDLER’S ART ON THE FRIDGE#I’M#IT’S LIEK THE TEAM IS A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY AND INSTEAD OF KIDS THEY HAVE A SHORT ANGRY DOUBLE AMPUTEE ALCHEMIST#THAT’S ADORABLE#TAKE THIS AWAT FROM ME#FMAB#iM SO#I CNA’T EVEN SPELL RIGHT NOW (x)
Just for your information. Being called a “feathernazi” is NEVER a compliment. No matter how often you want to tell yourself that, kid.
Morning Joe covers the statements of White House advisor, Stephen Miller.
Here you go.
The nazis you elected is outright stating their power is absolute.
Not quite. They’re stating they want their power to be absolute, and throwing a hissy fit that it isn’t.
Let’s keep up the pressure, so it doesn’t BECOME absolute.
Amen
> Says three judges made a broad overreaching statement.
> Makes a broad reaching statement about border control
> Says this ignoring the irony in what he just said#seemslegit
Do not get me wrong, I am all for defined borders, Border Control, and strict immigration laws to avoid illegal employment exploitation, but you cannot actively prejudice a select group based on their nation, ethnicity, sex, or religion (or lack thereof).
Trump wants to be a diktator.
Wow he’s a fucking moron. The judicial branch is arguably the most powerful since they’re the ones who have ultimate say on how laws are to be interpreted and which laws are allowed. I mean, how can he say judicial brance is not supreme when it literally has a court called the supreme court?
i dont understand this at all and america scares the fuck out of me
This is the america they don’t want you to see
i love america
This is what you call Waffle House at 2 am when the bars close and everyone is drunk and hungry
I LOVE WAFFLE HOUSE
Ohmygod
Waffle House Aesthetic
this is making me so homesick
