cielagainstsebaciel:
A genuine question that deserves a genuine answer.
Imagine you have an argument with someone. You say “This is my experience. It sucks a lot and I just wanted to talk about it with someone.” Then the other person says “No, no, no, I know more about what you went through than you.” Obviously, you’d be upset by this.
But going on tumblr and seeing a post that says “anyone who thinks they know someone better than that person knows themselves is a piece of shit”, you would probably feel better.
Similarly, you’ve likely reblogged posts saying things like “i can’t believe people still do this” or “hey, don’t do this” or “people who do this are bad.”
And that’s fine. In fact, what that does is that it validates you and your position. Everyone needs that.
For me, I had a lot of issues with bullying and stuff (long story) when I was in middle school. Seeing a post that says “these two characters hate each other wtf don’t ship them” is legitimately helpful to me. It can take me from being horribly triggered to entirely okay. It can improve my day from “everyone sucks I want to die” to “at least people agree with me on one thing.”
The reason we run these blogs are for our fellow antis. Because we all need that validation. These blogs are a coping method for a lot of people.
Don’t take that away from us. Please.
Sorry, but I’m that big mean blog I know a lot of you antis dislike here to say I’m calling bullshit.
How it it legitimately helpful to tell other people that are also survivors or have been through hard things in their life and using fiction as an outlet that they are terrible people for indulging in the content you don’t like? You are totally valid to feel comfort in NOT liking ships, but it is completely asinine to decide you get to dictate what other people do and to say that it makes you feel better to trash things you don’t like and the people who do need them. In fact, I’d almost call it a completely selfish and dick move.
Hey here’s a radical idea, why not, instead of fear mongering you do something more productive like only follow blogs who post content that you like so you don’t have to see it? You get to be in control of your dashboard, tumblr tags are more of a general space and considering the tagging system is shit and has been proven to be faulty time and time again. Use blacklist, follow blogs so you don’t have to go in tags, or hell even start up your own community forum. But for the love of god don’t tell me that running a hate blog/defending a community that constantly targets vulnerable people is in any way an acceptable way to deal with your issues.
The reason we run these blogs are for our fellow antis. Because we all need that validation. These blogs are a coping method for a lot of people.
Please explain to me how running a blog based on the hatred and disdain towards people who ship or indulge in something you don’t agree with is in any way okay. You can’t make survivors feel like shit for needing to cope (Newsflash: the “this doesn’t apply to survivors” disclaimer is full of shit since a lot of us get harassed anyways) and then tell us that we have to respect that because it’s your coping method… to… bully us? While the majority of you antis have never once respected any survivor who disagrees with you or a lot of other survivor’s coping methods?
Yikes, you better find a more productive way to handle yourself. There are tons of ways to get validation without getting into arguments with people and making them feel like crap, you know. That’s actually really disgusting and it just sounds like you are jumping through hoops to try to make your movement sound good when sorry but no matter what you say, it’s full of shit. You can never justify hurting innocent people. Never. No matter how bad you want to paint them based on projecting your own issues onto them what the anti movement doing is not okay.
(P.S. Just in case, in before “well I’m not like those antis/don’t condone the ones that bully people” because you are still defending the movement with this post so yes you are.)
Reblogging this super hard because this just summed up everything wrong with antis in one neat package and burned it to the ground . Thank you for this srsly