remember the post that was like ‘youre going to regret who you were when you were 14’ and someone replied woth ‘what? regret being a superwholockian tumblrer >:3. i dont think so’
“Great. You’re both out? And you’re fizzed again? Why? Mixing is just a cheap tactic to make bad sodas taste better. Quit embarrassing yourselves! I’ve seen what you really are.“
In honor of reaching 1000 followers here on SFRJ-News, I’ve thrown together a pretty decent comprehensive timeline of the events surrounding the sonic-for-real-justice blog over the last four days since it was created.
I’ll update this timeline as more big events happen over there, but for now here it is! If you want to take a look at the timeline as it’s updated, there’ll be a link to it on our blog page!
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I feel this has a place with our blog. This is like a real time weebstory happening.
I don’t follow RP blogs. I don’t follow sonic blogs. I don’t even like sonic. But I keep seeing this drama and it’s so damn satisfying to a real explanation behind it all.
Important- wish i had learned about this a long time ago.
I will ALWAYS reblog stuff about gaslighting. I’ve been affected by it as others I know. And I don’t wish it on anyone.
This is a wonderfully direct comic about such a complicated confusing issue. And as a mentally ill person who has some memory issues, it can sometimes be hard to fully wrap my head around when “I didn’t say that” conversations become gaslighting. Abuse can be very subtle, and said with the most sympathetic tone! And gaslighting is about using someone’s doubts of their memories and experience of reality as a tool for manipulation, not simply addressing those doubts, which many of us have.
So if you are fearing that someone is gaslighting you, trust your instincts, and pay attention to why that person is correcting you … are they trying to escape responsibility for hurting you? Are they trying to use the correction to push you into an action you aren’t sure about? Are they trying to make you feel guilty that your memories don’t match theirs? These are all red flags! But if that person is just trying to straighten out the details of an event, or clarify their intentions and apologize for causing harm, then it’s probably not manipulative. Just ask - do they want me to trust myself?
Gather round kids while I explain this manipulation tactic that men perpetually try to use and why it’s bullshit.
If someone is openly showing interest in you by making disparaging or disappointed comments about your age, they’re trying to put you on the defensive. This guy wants me to try to quell his discomfort, to bring up that I’m only a month shy of 20, etc. - he wants me to try to prove myself to him, that I’m mature and adult enough for a man like him.
His goal is to establish a power imbalance right off the bat. If we were to date, I would constantly be on the defensive, constantly striving to be an equal, constantly trying to prove my “adult” credentials. Anything he says or does or wants from this point on that I object to would just be seen as a strike against my age, proof that he was right and that I’m not mature enough for him. This is how SO MANY men pressure younger individuals (primarily women and girls) into situations and relationships they aren’t comfortable with. If he truly thought I was too young for him, he wouldn’t have messaged me. This is a very calculated move, and it’s fucking gross.
Adult relationships with age gaps are completely fine, but only if all parties view each other as equals. If someone is trying to set you up in a way that ensures that’s never a possibility, run far away.
READ THIS SERIOUSLY READ THIS ^^^^^^^^^^^^
This this this.
Reblogged for the commentary.
This is really important because I think that educating about power imbalances and how to spot that manipulation is a lot better than saying “young people don’t date older people”. I had people use this kind of tactic on me when I was 18/19 as well and it is really damaging.
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