Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between “not obviously pleased” and “obviously displeased” because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the people you actually care about aren’t mad or upset, because to you, “there’s no evidence that they’re not angry” is the same as “there’s evidence that they are angry”
I have never heard this put into words before but it explains so much. Even as a kid I was constantly scared my mom was mad just when she was making a neutral expression cause she could go from 0 to 60 with no other warning.
Omg I didn’t realise. I do this. I’m constantly checking that people are ok and not mad.
Because that’s what my dad did. 0-rage monster in a second.
Hyper vigilance over other people’s emotional state because of previous / repeated / continuous exposure to volatile people is seriously just…the most exhausting, fucked up, draining, relationship-fucking, driving-yourself-mad thing and it is so rarely explained well or talked about at all and I’m SO GLAD this post is going around.
If someone is even slightly less than being 100% positive/happy/approving of me I pick up on it right away, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and I fret and stress and am on edge. Which is so unfair because other people are allowed to have feelings and they’re allowed to express those feelings and it’s almost never about me anyway.
And then trying to explain that you expect them to be volatile assholes when they’ve never shown any evidence of being that way, and trying to say that it’s not personal, is almost impossible. Because it’s always taken personally and how can they not, really?
I also think like everything else this exists on spectrums. Because I still find myself checking to make sure J is okay every time he seems grumpy and not upset with me because it might be something I did because with B it usually WAS something small I did that I didn’t know about until MUCH later when he just exploded on me randomly or something like that.
i love when my preschoolers pretend to be talking on the phone bc if u leave them to their own devices and observe they just start saying things they’ve heard adults say into the phone like “hello i have an appointment, i’d like some rice”
When my sister was three, my Dad worked from home a lot. He runs his own business and deals a lot with customers and with red tape and other things.
Naturally, my sister had picked up a lot of these phrases. And as a result she could fake her way pretty well through an adult phone conversation.
This became relevant when telemarketers called the business line one day. My dad told the guy “Let me turn you over to my assistant” and promptly handed the phone to my three year old sister.
Mind, I don’t actually recall any of the dialogue. I do remember my sister keeping the guy on the phone for a good couple of minutes, asking him questions related to payment and things. Finally, the guy wised up. I don’t remember what my sister said, but I do remember the last lines-
Me: I still really enjoy Rick and Morty despite people starting to see as a “cringy” interest
clearly very straight white dude wearing rick and morty shirt: yeah me too, those trigglypuffs just don’t get how deep it is-
Me:
I have the feeling that Rick and Morty is gonna be a red flag in a similar vein to Fight Club: If a dude tells you he loves it because Rick is so awesome/relatable/whatever, smile, nod, and get the fuck out of there.
yes thank you, somebody gets the point of this post
this is the funniest gif i’ve seen all week what the fuck is going on
the best part is this isn’t even HALF the relentless bullshit insanity that goes on in robot sumo wrestling, a sport where the contestants are all hyperfast robots with scoop attachments and preprogrammed moves.
(this one wants to be a beyblade when it grows up)
the idea is to include as many unique moves as you can, to make your shrieking deathbot difficult to counter
or dodging. that works too.
also, some of the speed demons have… unorthodox attachments to fool other bot’s sensors
WIIINGS MOTHERFUCKERRRRRRR
robot sumo is also a sport where spectators may end up taking a small robot to the shins if they aren’t careful.
Hey remember early last year when the Large Hadron Collider overloaded and broke down and people were like “phew good thing nothing weird happened like a shift in reality.” Maybe it’s time to revisit that.
I am Silver Tongue, I am an artist. I have many characters and you can check out my art in the art tag. I occasionally practice witchcraft though I don't do anything too complicated. I am girl 2 and don't know what else to put here.
