“i was ___ and I came out fine” bothers me so much

because it completely lacks empathy and understanding that people are all different and handle situations differently

Imagine if I said “Well I was molested as a child but I came out fine”

Just because I’m not severely damaged from the experience does not mean it was okay or justified, nor does it mean other people who experienced similar aren’t more damaged than I am. People have killed themselves over the same things I’ve experienced. 

Never weigh the severity of a problem. Ever.

Always judge the level of severity based on how heavily it affects the person’s mental state. What may be a minor problem for you can be a major problem for someone else.