owlygem:

Telling a fat person that they are disgusting doesn’t help.

Telling a fat person who has no problem with how they are that they are gross and unacceptable is like air lifting them to a pedestal in the middle of a vast, lonely ocean and leaving them there to sit and think about how “naughty and bad” they’re being.

Telling a fat person who’s already dieting and exercising that they are unhealthy and killing themselves upon judging them without knowing them is like cutting the rope they’re using to climb a mountain that’s already so steep.

Telling a depressed fat person that all their worries and insecurities will melt away when they shed the kilos is like putting foundation over a scar and saying it isn’t there anymore.

Telling a fat person they have no right to love themselves ,whether they plan to lose their weight or not, is telling them they have no right to live a happy life. 

Telling that little girl that she has to lose weight to be like her classmates and be loved as much as them doesn’t make her want to lose her weight, it makes her put on more.

So no, Nicole, Shaming doesn’t help people. It never will.

Judging fat people based on how they look is shallow. You don’t know if they have a medical condition which makes them unable to lose weight or prevents them from exerting them self too much. You don’t know if how much their weight impacts them. Someone could be overweight but still be perfectly healthy. in fact, many overweight people are perfectly healthy. You can’t just look at someone and know their entire medical history so, nichole, telling people that what you are saying doesn’t apply to people with medical conditions doesn’t work because you’re still judging people based on how they look.