hollllow:

I spent my work days with men old enough to be my father and sometimes even my grandfather relentlessly trying to get my phone number or following me around the store asking about my schedule so they can “come and see me again”.

It’s not a compliment. It’s creepy.

A compliment is going up to someone and telling them their hair looks nice today or they have beautiful eyes and leaving. Not harassing them at work and low-key stalking them.

When some person you don’t know responds to you not giving them your number with “how about I give you mine then”, when someone comes to your work just to stare at you and follow you around the store, when someone flirts with you just because they know you can’t say anything but sickeningly sweet replies THAT is CREEPY.

These people don’t know me. They know what I look like and that’s that. They aren’t giving me compliments they’re creeping on me. They’re seeing the way I look and that’s it.

When these people force their number on me it’s not to get to know me it’s to try to court me. They say it themselves. When they stand in front of me to trap me outside away from security to ask me uncomfortable questions and stare at me it’s not a compliment.

It’s harassment and FUCKING CREEPY.

Come up to me and tell me you like the way my hair color looks, that my makeup looks nice, that I’m pretty or I have nice features and leave it at that and that’s a compliment.

Want to get to know me instead of just strait up trying to fuck me? Start a conversation. Get to know me. If you see me working the next time you’re in the store come say hi. Maybe after a bit you can ask for my number to talk more instead of to “take you out for dinner and a night at my place”.

Treat me like something more than a potential mate or fuck toy and yeah maybe I’ll take it as a compliment.

As for my co-workers, I just don’t find interest in them. Plus, the ones who are blatantly flirting with me are either putting other girls down while doing it, only doing it because they are suddenly single (making me feel like just a backup or a bandaid), being way too clingy about it, or are just being creepy.

PLUS it’s, like, super bad work ethic to date your co-workers. Last thing I need is someone I dated and then dumped in an area where they can fuck me over easy.

So what’s wrong with someone trying to flirt with me?

I literally don’t KNOW any of them.

The people who ARE flirting with me right?

Well, I don’t post about them; or if I do they’re painted in a good light.

I think anon is the kind of person who catcalls women and gets mad when they don’t respond or respond negatively. Basically an entitled piece of shit.

As kelp said, there is a difference between a complement and harassment.