apparently this needs to be said but uh abusive behavior is not excusable, even if its caused by mental illness, like

i get that it can make you manipulative or want to lash out. i really do. but you need to apologize when you are called out for it, you cant excuse it by saying youre mentally ill, you cant accuse people of ableism when theyre really just saying “hey this isnt cool you should apologize for this”

there are ableist people who assume that mentally ill people are inherently abusive. but being expected to own up to your abusive actions is not ableist. being held responsible is not ableist. you are not completely free of any and all criticism