drnerdlove:

One of the things that people often get wrong about fuckboys is just why they’re so unappealing. It’s not that they’re looking for sex. It’s not even that they’re obviously looking for sex.

It’s that they’re so legitimately bad about trying to get it. They’re rude, invasive, obnoxious, ignore boundaries occasionally border on rape-y.

See, this ties back into the age-old (bullshit) idea that women aren’t as sexual as men are, that they don’t like casual sex and that their lack of interest makes them the sexual gatekeepers. Except – as I’ve covered before – the problem isn’t that women don’t like casual sex… it’s that women don’t like bad sex.
 

Because women face disproportionate levels of danger when it comes to sex – from pregnancy, to disease, to slut-shaming and to basic physical safety – they’re far, far less likely to hop in the sack with someone if it doesn’t seem like the sex will be worth the risk. The fuckboy approach to getting laid is a giant flashing billboard that says “This is not a man who knows what to do with a clitoris.” The entitled behavior, ignoring of boundaries, the inappropriate comments are all solid indicators that the fuckboy either lacks emotional intelligence or simply doesn’t give a shit about acting like a grown-ass adult.

That, in turn, is a strong sign that if a woman were to sleep with him, it would be another 3 minutes of her life that she’d never get back. That would be three minutes she could’ve spent playing Angry Birds instead.

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