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How women prepare for first dates

Bonus: How men prepare for first dates:

Accurate.

Okay but the first set of gifs is not a joke like that’s literally how it goes.

One of the girls at work won’t get in the guy’s car unless he agrees to let her take photos of him and his license plate to text to her mother. If he gets mad or makes a fuss she cancels the date and goes back inside.

Reblogging for that 👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼

I’ve had someone take pics of me and my license plate on a first date before & I was okay with it. I’ve also had a friend allow me to view the tracking on her phone when she went to meet up with a guy the first time. This isn’t a joke at all & women have good reason to worry.

i have only ever met 2 people online, and made sure that we met up somewhere that was 1) public 2) close to my home. 

After, I walked to the dollar store that was a couple shops down until I knew they were gone, before walking home.

Louis C.K. kind of nailed it. Men worry that their date won’t measure up to their aesthetic preferences. Women worry that they’re going wind up dead.

The disparity is RIDICULOUS, and the fact that dudes get offended when women try to protect themselves is hard proof that way too many guys Do Not Understand how dangerous it is to be a woman. (Not to mention it’s fucking insulting. “How dare you not trust your life and safety to a complete stranger whose intentions you have no way of knowing”?)

Lookin’ at the notes on this post following my earlier reblog and just going….

Wow. WOW. Look at all these sheltered people and their internalized misogyny.

The point isn’t, “NOT ALL MEN ARE OUT TO GET YOU.”

The point is, “WE HAVE NO WAY OF KNOWING A NICE GUY FROM A SERIAL KILLER.”

It’s not like they fucking wear nametags, okay? Moreover, the most awful people with the worst intentions often put on the nicest face or deliberately make themselves seem harmless and likeable, to lull potential victims into a false sense of security. (Read up on Ted Bundy sometime. It’s horrifying shit. Or read any thread on the “Let’s Not Meet” subreddit.)

In order to protect ourselves, we are forced to assume the worst of every man we meet, because statistically speaking, the biggest danger to women…IS MEN. Saying “not all men are out to get you, you’re just being paranoid” is like saying “not every car you ride in is going to crash, so buckling your seatbealt is stupid.”

When dealing with an unknown situation, in the absence of absolute proof of safety, exercising a little extra caution can be the difference between life and death. Shaming women for being what you may view as overly cautious is every bit as horrid as blaming them if something goes wrong later on.

And refusing to go to a secluded location with a complete stranger without letting someone know where you’re going, who you’re with, and how to find you is just common street sense, whether you’re on a date or just going out for business or social purposes.

If your life has been so sheltered (or your coping skills so incredible) that you see no need to distrust strangers or worry about the potential for violence, you should thank your lucky stars.

And you should also be aware that just because it hasn’t happened to you or anyone you know does not mean that it doesn’t happen.

Lemme say that louder for the people in the back.

Just because it hasn’t happened to you or anyone you know does not mean that it doesn’t happen.

THIS. SO MUCH THIS.

I can’t imagine going out with someone I dont know. Wouldnt handle someone trying to take me home from a bar or anything.

I AM SCARED OF MEN AND WHAT THEY CAN DO.

Okay. All of y'all know I’m a huge proprietor of the “Not all Men” thing. I really hate the mentality that “All men are terrible and put to get you.” But I want to say right now THIS INSTANCE is totally different. My biggest problem with the women ignoring the “Not all Men” thing is that they assume the worst about men to the extreme. It is not healthy to assume that literally every male is a rapist. That’s just not cool. The point of it is to meet them and figure out if they are and get the hell out and if they’re nice to THEN continue to meet with them.

However, women HAVE to take these precautions when meeting someone new. Period. I’ve done it. I’ve made sure to meet in a public place and have a friend know where I was and have a code for an out. Am I assuming the guy is a rapist? No, but I have to take precautions.

No, not all men are out to get you. But it’s important for men to understand that we women have to worry about our physical safety too. This post isn’t about someone going “Oh well this guy believes in the friend zone so he’s total scum.” it’s about women having to make sure they’re safe, which is also something that men need to do when meeting someone, just not as often.

That I can agree with. There’s a difference between condemning an entire gender and preparing just in case something might go wrong.

Example: Even if you know how to use fireworks and have never had an accident, it’s still a good idea to have a fire extinguisher on hand. However, completely avoiding fireworks and yelling at people who like them is uncalled for.