Sorry, but I’m that big mean blog I know a lot of you antis dislike here to say I’m calling bullshit.

How it it legitimately helpful to tell other people that are also survivors or have been through hard things in their life and using fiction as an outlet that they are terrible people for indulging in the content you don’t like? You are totally valid to feel comfort in NOT liking ships, but it is completely asinine to decide you get to dictate what other people do and to say that it makes you feel better to trash things you don’t like and the people who do need them. In fact, I’d almost call it a completely selfish and dick move.

Hey here’s a radical idea, why not, instead of fear mongering you do something more productive like only follow blogs who post content that you like so you don’t have to see it? You get to be in control of your dashboard, tumblr tags are more of a general space and considering the tagging system is shit and has been proven to be faulty time and time again. Use blacklist, follow blogs so you don’t have to go in tags, or hell even start up your own community forum. But for the love of god don’t tell me that running a hate blog/defending a community that constantly targets vulnerable people is in any way an acceptable way to deal with your issues.

The reason we run these blogs are for our fellow antis. Because we all need that validation. These blogs are a coping method for a lot of people.

Please explain to me how running a blog based on the hatred and disdain towards people who ship or indulge in something you don’t agree with is in any way okay. You can’t make survivors feel like shit for needing to cope (Newsflash: the “this doesn’t apply to survivors” disclaimer is full of shit since a lot of us get harassed anyways) and then tell us that we have to respect that because it’s your coping method… to… bully us? While the majority of you antis have never once respected any survivor who disagrees with you or a lot of other survivor’s coping methods?
Yikes, you better find a more productive way to handle yourself. There are tons of ways to get validation without getting into arguments with people and making them feel like crap, you know. That’s actually really disgusting and it just sounds like you are jumping through hoops to try to make your movement sound good when sorry but no matter what you say, it’s full of shit. You can never justify hurting innocent people. Never. No matter how bad you want to paint them based on projecting your own issues onto them what the anti movement doing is not okay.
(P.S. Just in case, in before “well I’m not like those antis/don’t condone the ones that bully people” because you are still defending the movement with this post so yes you are.) 

Reblogging this super hard because this just summed up everything wrong with antis in one neat package and burned it to the ground . Thank you for this srsly

Bullying people is not a coping mechanism. Its perpetrating the cycle of abuse.

It’s really important for people to see that doing something like this, just hating isn’t helping anyone. Not themselves nor others, you have an amazing amount of control now the stuff you see online. You want to work on dealing with getting over things like abuse, start with taking control of your life. You can start with blocking stuff you dislike. This doesn’t mean to just spend all day crapping on something you hate. That isn’t coping, that’s an excuse to throw yourself right back into the cycle of abuse and keep it turning. Victims of abuse have the highest risk of becoming abusers and spreading hate is a pretty fast way of getting there.

There are always a million and half reasons to like or dislike something. But if anyone thinks running an anti blog of any kind is helping them, it’s not. If this honestly makes you feel good, please stop and get help. You maybe feel good doing it but you hurt others, you turn yourself into an abuser. Just don’t do that to yourself, please.

Anti blogs are harmful and destructive ways of coping, please don’t fool yourself into thinking they aren’t. Just because you feel good doesn’t mean it’s correct or right. You should feel good and be apart of healthy ways of handling past, current, and future traumas. Participating in hate isn’t.

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This is a great addition. Doing things that actively harm individuals is never ok and not an acceptable coping mechansim. Ever. It’s also awful to acknowledge but it’s so true that people who were abused can become abusers, and this is coming from a trauma survivor who was abused mainly by abusive victims. You cannot justify bad behavior as “coping” and thus expect it to be okay while your whole coping method is throwing other people under the bus for not liking their methods.

Also even further, this is going to sound absolutely mindblowing to a lot of antis, but coping with fiction is actually incredibly valid and okay and not harmful in the way a lot of them claim it is. I’ve talked about this multiple times on this blog, but as a recap: Any good therapist who specializes in treating trauma can tell you that this is perfectly acceptable to use fiction to cope and it’s incredibly common. Problematic fiction does not perpetuate or normalize abuse if it’s being acknowledged as abusive. You can write a story about an abusive relationship but as soon as you say “this work of fiction is not healthy in real life and abusive” then you are not normalizing abuse because the person will recognize all the behaviors they are indulging in as abusive.
In fact, even non-survivors can benefit from it because it may do other things like help them recognize warning signs in their own life to avoid getting into these relationships or help out others around them in these situations by better understanding them. You are only normalizing abuse when you portray abusive fiction as okay (50SOG and Twilight), but even then it’s more important to raise awareness and educate people to recognize what is abusive, not harass people who may not realize this as well as those that do.
Problematic fiction is so important as an education tool and we need to utilize it to do good instead of trying to eradicate it (which did you know actually perpetuates abuse because hiding stories about abuse lowers awareness about it and makes individuals more susceptible to getting hurt, but you never see antis talk about that.)

So with that in mind, no shipping does not inherently condone or normalize abuse, BUT running a blog based on harassing and hating people who indulge in fictional content you do not like absolutely does.

Just something to keep in mind if you are an anti and part of that community.