marauders4evr:

marauders4evr:

*Clears throat*

You are not a martyr for having a disabled kid.

You are not a martyr for having a disabled kid.

You are not a martyr for having a disabled kid.

YOU ARE NOT A MARTYR FOR HAVING A DISABLED KID.

YOU ARE NOT A MARTYR FOR HAVING A DISABLED KID!

That is all.

Okay seriously, let’s talk about this.

Do you know how harmful it is? Do you know how hurtful it is? Do you know how damaging it is to disabled children?

When parents turn themselves into martyrs, when they talk about how amazing they are, when they post on social media about the sacrifices they made and how they’re proud to make those sacrifices, when they get dozens of likes/comments, when they talk about the things they could be doing instead of dealing with medical problems, when they talk about how they’re superheroes, when people comment/repost/etc. their photos or stories saying that not all heroes wear capes, when they repeatedly give off the impression that they are better than everyone else because they have a disabled kid who they haven’t killed yet…

No, seriously, that’s what all of this is implying. Oh, sure, on the surface, it’s all about the attention and the glory. But really, what you’re saying each and every single time you do one of these things is that you’re not like other parents - you don’t care that your child is a burden, you see them as your inspiration, you would never harm them, you would never kill them, etc.

And all you’re doing is letting your child know that there are people out there who would have neglected, abused, even killed them and that you, you, the super-parent, you would never do such a thing and so that child should count themselves lucky every single day. Why? Because you’re being a parent? Because you’re choosing to not neglect your kid? That’s not heroic. That doesn’t deserve praise. That’s your damn job.

And I know, you might not think you’re implying that, but you are. Every single time you talk about the sacrifices that you’ve made for your child, every single time you talk about how amazing you are for being the parent of a disabled child because it’s not easy, you are just hammering in the fact that your child is a burden. You’re dehumanizing them, you’re exploiting them, and you’re teaching them that you deserve praise for not treating them like crap.

It’s manipulative, it’s abusive, it’s disgusting, and it needs to stop.

People are not martyrs for having disabled kids. And anyone who thinks they are really shouldn’t have those disabled kids to begin with.