thescienceofjohnlock:

connyhascontrol:

so this guy followed me yesterday after I posted some selfies and then this happened. At first I just wanted to say ‘anyway men are awful’ but I figured I might help especially younger female followers identify a douchebag when he starts a seemingly harmless, friendly conversation so let’s go through it shall we

First off, I have a big nose. Growing up I was very insecure about it but I’ve learned to not care about it now. Fact is it is something that is generally considered unattractive and this dude knows it. So he compliments me on something that he thinks I am insecure about but doesn’t get the expected reaction of ‘omg noooo it’s so ugly, thank you!!!!!!!!’ 

so he keeps digging: ‘do others compliment it?’ and ‘what do you think of it?’ He was waiting for me to confess that I’ve been insulted or laughed at because of it and that I cry myself to sleep every night. So he can be the one guy to find me attractive despite my tragic fate.

He picked a feature of my face that is not conventionally attractive, counting on my low self-esteem so I would be grateful and he’d prove that he’s ‘not like all the other guys’

and as soon as I made it clear I don’t have vulnerability to exploit he blocked me lmao

TL;DR men will use your insecurities so don’t give them the opportunity and don’t open up to them

This is actually really important, I’ve experienced this kind of thing many times and it’s only in the last few years that I know what these men are doing.

It seems harmless but in reality this is insidious, manipulative and devious. 

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