Your “preference” is not a preference, it is racism. You have internalized negative ideas of black men and for that reason you claim they’re not your “preference.” A preference is saying you like guys with brown hair or guys with blonde hair. Crossing out millions of diverse men that come in all shapes, skin tones and sizes is absolutely positively 100% due to racist beliefs. You may not be aware of it, but it’s true. Now saying you prefer brown haired guys over blonde haired guys is a preference because you’re not putting down their race in the process. Learn the difference between preference and racism before you start voicing your harmful opinions.
This is always my go-to response whenever anyone says they have a racial preference. I press them on what they mean when they say they’re only attracted to ___ race or aren’t attracted to ___ race. What in particular are or aren’t they attracted to? What features? What stereotypes?
My cousin is one of those gross “yellow fever” types and I didn’t let it go when it came up one time. He tried to tell me that he liked that Asian girls were ‘polite’, to which I reminded him that I know lots of abrasive Asian women. He then tried to say that they were small and cute, to which I showed him a picture of the Japanese women’s basketball team. He then even tried to tell me that Asian women like to serve their partners and I told him I knew a good chunk of women who would slap him for that one.
Racial “preference” is based on stereotypes. Every time. You can like small people, or polite people, or people who enjoy doing things for others, but those traits aren’t associated to any race in particular.
-V