cassandraooc:

So I wasn’t sure if I should post this or not. I’m probably gonna get rambly, so excuse me for that.

I generally want my blog to be an overall positive place as much as possible, for other people’s sake, and my own. I like making people happy, and things I don’t like I ignore but try not to bring up. But… I realized how upset I was, and how I was trying to ignore it and push it aside so I wouldn’t cause more drama. And I’m not okay with that. I don’t want to hurt other people but I really don’t want to hurt either.

It’s pretty obvious what this is about. I simplified things but its not exactly subtle. I mostly drew it to vent, and I honestly don’t want to call people out.
But… this isn’t really about accusing anyone of anything. I don’t think anyone who posted really meant any harm by it, and some probably felt bad about my initial post which fueled their original reply.

So the take away from this I’d like people to have is basically… don’t assume negative implications about positive things, like gushing about things people like. And if you see something on your dash you don’t like, if it’s something harmless (like posting about liking something, not something racist/sexist/homophobic/etc) just ignore or block it. If you don’t want to engage in it, just… don’t engage.

Because even if you see it on your dash, it’s posted on their blog, and they see every single negative thing that gets posted, and even with a lot of positive posts it can be pretty overwhelming. Esp[ecially if it gets unexpectedly popular for some unknowable reason.

It’s totally okay to hate a thing, or talk about hating a thing! But please don’t do it on someone else’s post about liking it. Maybe if you want to have a discussion about it? But even then try to be considerate about what you’re putting out there.

(This is something that has bothered me before in smaller samples, like people posting on my art that they don’t like a particular ship or something, which always bothered me a little. I mean, if I drew it, I probably like it. It’s really not the place to talk about how much you don’t like it. But the latest post of mine has gotten so much negativity it’s honestly been kind of overwhelming.)

To clarify, I’m not angry at anyone who did this. I just was hurt by it to the point I wished I had never posted it, and I’m really hoping that this might stop others from being hurt in the future.
Please please do not take this personally if you’ve done it before! Just… try not to do it agian. :x