amaditalks:

Let’s be intersectional, shall we?

- if you cannot handle and accept having a child who will reject your religious beliefs, do not have a child.

- if you cannot handle and accept having a gay child, do not have a child.

- if you cannot handle and accept having a transgender child, do not have a child.

- if you cannot handle and accept having a child with physical or intellectual disabilities, do not have a child.

- if you cannot handle and accept having a child who is fat, do not have a child.

- if you cannot handle and accept having a child who is neuroatypical, do not have a child.

- if you cannot handle and accept having a child whose appearance is not what you expected (recessive genes and parental secrets are real), do not have a child.

Altogether too many people seem to be laboring under the staggeringly false belief that children are not autonomous human beings of complete intrinsic value regardless of whether they match parental life fantasies. Nothing is promised to you. Nothing is owed to you. If you can’t commit yourself to understanding and accepting that before you even begin to think about children, don’t have children. Get a pet. Collect dolls. Find a hobby. You aren’t prepared for the extreme challenge and extraordinary blessing of parenting.