people talking about your confidence is a fat girl thing, isn’t it? 

i really can’t tell you how many times i get this in my inbox:

i love your confidence! your confidence is sexy! i envy your confidence! 

and a thin girl recently told me: confidence is the most attractive thing a women can carry though, and that is only something you can control.

but i have never seen a thin girl be told it’s their confidence that makes them attractive. when i get these messages it really reads like: fat girls aren’t supposed to be confident and comfortable in their skin but you are!! and that’s kind of gross honestly.