you know what’s always bothered me? how people talk about their babies having “random weird fussy days” and they get mad about it right but the thing about that is...
babies don’t steadily grow, they grow in spurts, which means on a growth day they’re in quite a lot of pain ... but no one takes it seriously because a baby can’t communicate that they’re growing over a centimeter over night and that HURTS
like, massage your fussy baby ... theyre having a hard time ... theyre growing obscene amounts in a short period of time and need love and care ...
people will be like “my baby crawled yesterday but now theyre all fussy and acting like they cant crawl.”
ok i dont see you trying to run a marathon every day during a growth spurt when you did it yesterday ... fuckin chill. that baby is hurting.
everything about a babys growth is painful but no one talks about it??? why?! respect your baby and understand what amazing feats theyre accomplishing every day. geez. !!!!
doctors literally have to tell people “no you cant spoil your infant by holding them too much and helping them feel better when they cry” and tbh that alone is disgusting that people have so little regard for their babies they think providing adequate care to them is the same as “spoiling” them and will use their periods of growth and pain as examples of a spoiled baby. 😡
like did yall know youre not even supposed to wait for a newborn to cry before feeding them?? youre supposed to feed them before they cry because crying is actually hard on their stomachs and makes things worse!!! but people would apparently rather be annoyed at their child before feeding them????
There’s been multiple studies that show how children who were held a lot, talked to, dotted on, and had their feelings taken seriously as small babies/children have healthier brains than those who were treated like you said or worse.
Neglected kids have less function in their temporal lobes and are more likely to suffer from mental illness whether they cognitively remember the events or not. Another thing that has been known for decades now.
It starts at birth. Children MUST be cared for. Leaving them to sob hysterically or punishing them in any way for being in pain can end up dooming them to a sad life. This culture of letting your kid cry and even getting mad at them for it is exactly why the older generations typically has such a problem with emphasizing with others.
Love your kids.
“babies have painful growth spurts” and "don't wait for your baby to be so hungry they cry" should not be radical concepts yet here we are