thesnadger:

thesnadger:

I wish the takeaway from “bean dad” was not “this one specific guy is a bad person,” but that the very, very common “they’ll do it when they’re hungry/tired/bored enough” attitude towards children isn’t a good one.

If you can understand that this isn’t a good way to teach a child to use a can opener, consider that maybe the kid who’s been told they can’t move from the table until they finish their homework, who’s been visibly struggling to focus for hours and crying out of frustration isn’t just being stubborn?

I don’t especially care if this guy is run off twitter, it just rubs me the wrong way that there’s an obvious desire to say “this guy is the worst parent in the world” instead of “this is an attitude that a lot of normal and entirely well-meaning parents have, and it can be harmful to children.”

the lesson is “if your child asks for help, help them. especially if its a thing that you as a parent never even taught them. dont make fun of your children for your own failure as a parent”