Me: you see a relationship needs to be mutually beneficial. If you’re both not getting something you want it’s a bad relationship.

47 y/o man with 3 kids:

Real conversation I had with my dad

Me: I don’t personally understand the desire to have children, or why do many feel like failures when they’re unable to

Dad: (in that voice that indicates he thinks he’s about to drop some real Knowledge™️ on me) well you have to understand; if you reach a certain age and don’t have children, people will look at you weirdly. Nobody wants that

Me: …You’re saying you were peer pressured into having a baby? Like you were afraid of being “the weird kid” except you were a grown man with a job? Do you think that’s a good thing?

Dad:

My friend: he never does what I want him to do, he doesn’t treat me right

Me, naively: well have you asked him outright? Sometimes people can’t really decipher hints you know?

Friend: he should just know

Me: