people jest but this is literally how i worked out i was gaslit for like 15 years of my life

People who “want trauma” are recognizing, on some level, that they were traumatized but in a way that’s not “socially recognized” as trauma. What they really want is for people to see that they’ve been traumatized and be on their side

Hold up

#everyone learns that trauma can cause memory problems or even cause you to black out events and then you're just like#how could people who said they had a stable life be traumatized??

I wanna expand on that for a moment. I’ve talked to a lot of trauma survivors about their backgrounds. And two things that are damn near universally true?

1. We almost all say “It wasn’t that bad” at first.
2. That statement is pretty much always a lie, be it to others or to yourself.