"you shouldnt expect a woman to tolerate being patient with misogynists" doesnt really apply if said misogynists are like 11 ans 12 year old boys are you guys fucking insane. those are children. you cant fucking treat children like theyre destined to grow into monsters thats not how combatting bigotry fucking works
"was he radicalized by youtube or did he just suck" IF HE IS TWELVE THEN I AM INCLINED TO BLAME THE YOUTUBE TEE BEE AYCHE. you cant seriously be grown adults bitching about the emotional labor of talking to the 10 year olds in your life about misoginy like. would you rather leave his peers to deal with him? the little girls who are going to be the targets of this behaviour if it continues? or are you going to be the fucking adult and do what you can to work with these kids. little boys are not monsters and treating them like they have the misogynist male socialization plague is just going to make things worse.
if you tell a child he will inevitably be a dangerous monster and is therefore fundamentally irredeemable, YOU ARE THE ONE RADICALIZING HIM