What it is: Saying someone is trans because they fit a certain gender stereotype or saying someone can’t be trans or is offensive because they don’t fit the gender sterotype

What it isn’t: a man wearing a dress or makeup.

saying a man is transpmysoginistic because he wears a dress or makeup or does something that would fit into the female sterorype is in itself transmisogyny. Just as saying a character IS trans because they wore a dress one time or had a female counterpart.

Imagine some white kid in california is trying to convince everyone the movie godzilla is offensive to japanese people.

Nor what if a japanese person comes along and tells the kid to shut up because it’s not offensive.

Logically, the kid should listen to the japanese person and listen to the voice of the people they’re “trying to protect” but instead the kid argues not only with the japanese person but a lot more japanese people who tell the kid it’s not offensive.

That is basically what was happening.

A few people who weren’t trans were trying to tell the trans community what is and isn’t offensive to trans people and when real trans people tried to tell them to stop, they argued. they argued with the people who they were “speaking for”

That is why I am super pissed. Don’t tell me what I should be angry at and don’t tell me I should find something offensive. me and other trans people can speak for ourselves, we DID speak for ourselves and they ignored it.

Despite the technical reason being because it was early in the shows life when they had limited colour pallets and character models, it’s still a nice thought with that can actually be backed up that Caramel is trans and went through HRT.

My mom’s text after brunch. I showed her the picture from last week and told her about my trip to the mall.

a-random-mod:

Going to the mall.

I’m back. It went well. First we stopped by a vapor shop and played gamecube while two of my friends shopped. Then we went to the food court but because I’m very self conscious about my voice, I had one of my friends order my food for me. Later I had to go to the bathroom and went to the womans bathroom with two of my friends but I was too nervous to pee. I still flushed and washed my hands like nothing was wrong though. then we went to the arcade and I became queen of air hockey. after that we didn’t do much worth posting.

A few things though, I figured out why to me I never looked good or passable despite my friends claims that I look find. It’s because I know what to look for. And it felt like people were judging me despite them probably not. It was fun but not something I wanna do again for a while.

It’s trans visibility day so I thought I should post a modpic.

I found that having my hair in a ponytail and wearing a hat make my face look sooo much more feminine.

I really wish I had makeup though. But at least I have my breast forms (but my dark cloths make it hard to tell I’m wearing them)

I’m actually planning on going public after having my friend do my hair and makeup on saturday so that will be scary fun.

Anonymous said:I meant trans.

Well it wasn’t a decision but I know what you mean. 

I always had tenancies and thoughts but I chose to ignore them and tell myself it was nothing. It wasn’t until events in december that I finally decided to seek help from mastermod and last month I started telling the coop members. I came out on tumblr on sunday.

Someone who I once considered a friend (Who I don’t want to say because I don’t want any more drama) did a bad. She said she’s fine with me being trans but she doesn’t support transitioning which is a big part of being trans. She also purposefully called me a he and then continued lying. The worst part was that I wasn’t mad, just numb. I just layed down and did nothing for hours after. I mean, I expected to eventually receive hate but I always thought I would get angry.

I’m really proud with you coming out as trans! ^w^ I wish you luck on your transition, and I’m sure you’re going to be absolutely adorable!! I understand how you feel, being trans myself. And BTW I noticed that your description states that you’re an atheistic satanist. I know a little bit about that religion and I think it’s perfectly lovely. I’m an agnostic theist who’s interested in religions so I thought I could get your input about the ideology and your story behind joining it. I’m sure I could do lots of research about it, but having a discussion with someone about something has it’s own rewards that research doesn’t have to offer. 

Thank you. I’ve already had some obstacles such as the fact that Doctors are so expensive and I don’t want to have this show up on my medical insurance because then my father will find out and I know I will have to tell him some day but I want it to already be too late for him to find do anything about it.

Also, about my religion, LaVeyan Satanism is where god and satan are more symbols than actual beings. The gist of what it’s about is that I am my own goddess. I worship myself and I am in charge of my own destiny. I choose my own fate and I’m responsible for my actions. It’s about glorifying oneself while at the same time understanding that nobody else is responsible for the actions of someone.

Thank you for the support.